Gone and Never Coming Back

Woke up this cloudy morning listening to my favorite song now. Melanie Fiona - Gone and Never Coming Back! Her voice is amazing and very touching. I can really feel this song, something I can always relate to. Feeling some type of way now, I don't know so don't asks me LOL. But, hey if you haven't you should check out her last album which hit the shelves the end of last year.

Peace && Love,
Chaily

Get Me Higher

Sitting here criss-cross on my bed with my (dre-beats) headphones on BLASTING all of my favorite jams! As of RIGHT NOW, Jhene - Higher is playing. I LOVE this song, really I love all of her music that she puts out. She was never really a pop music artist because she never got her credit. She came out around the time when B2K had their huge buzz! LMAO you thinking what I'm thinking?? Yea I know!

I'm thinking about my life and actually taking the time to critique it and analyze it a little bit. And damn sure isn't perfect but it's real. Everything I do, I do it because it's going to make some type of difference in my life. No matter what people have to say about me being busy or what-not, I got to do what I got to do, ya know? K, great! I've learned the extremely hard meaning of the saying "YOU CAN'T MAKE EVERYBODY HAPPY." I mean you really can't, like it will NEVER happen!! Trust me!

Warm tears rolling down my face as I begin to look into my baby son's eyes. I can see the love he has for me and that he needs me. And I wonder how he sees me in his eyes. Does he see and feel that I love him so dearly? Am I doing every single thing that I can to provide the best for him? Am I being a wonderful mother? If not, what can I do better? All he does is smile and laugh when he looks at me. Does he not see the pain and hurt I go through? These are the questions that are constantly replaying in my brain.

I love God, he really has TRULY saved my LIFE!! Sometimes I feel like he doesn't hear my cry like it's ME, NOT NOBODY ELSE! But it's normal to feel that way because he never comes when you want him to but he always right ON TIME!

I NEVER wanted something SO BAD and I feel like God is telling me NO in every language possible. Like I shed tears talking and thinking about this, guys. My dream is SO CLOSE I CAN FEEL IT! This is allI ever wanted, and why can't I get it?? Maybe I'm not as ready as I think I am because the Lord always knows what's best for me. But I will tell you guys that I will not stop trying my absolute best to accomplish my dream. MY dreams are BIGGER THAN LIFE ITSELF!! I mean I can't just let them go that easily. I've made so many sacrifices in my life for other people benefits and not mine. Now it's time I really do what I have to do to make it, SUCCESSFULLY!

Well, I'm about to shower up! TTYL
Peace,
Chaily

Commitment!

For many of us commitment means getting married and staying together forever until we no longer exist.
The idea of commitment has changed over time though, and many people avoid getting involved with such an idea. Commitment covers different areas and it is essential that you know what you wish to commit to and if the person you are interested in, feels the same. There are several different types of commitments.

Emotional commitment 
An emotional commitment is when you are there for you partner whenever he or she needs you and they are there for you as well. You make each other first priority in your lives and stay together through the bad times and even make certain sacrifices

Differences commitment
A differences commitment is when you commit to each other's differences and respect them. You agree to disagree on things, without letting it blow out of proportion. You accept each other's personalities without ever attempting to change your partner. Although these are all separate commitments, they can all combine, which is what most people are looking for when they are trying to find a partner.

Sexual commitment
A sexual commitment is when the both of you agree to perform sexual activity only with one another or if the two of you agree to involve other people. 
Some people may even agree to sleep with others without the other involved, as long as they inform each other about it.

For many of us commitment means getting married and staying together forever until we no longer exist.
Understanding why you want a commitment will make things clear for you and your partner. Many people often wish to commit for the reason that they feel it is a pattern they must follow. They feel they will be judged negatively if they do not eventually commit fully to a person.

Do you want a commitment because your parents are pressuring you?

Or do you truly wish to settle down and strengthen your relationship?

No matter what situation your relationship is in, understanding and keeping the commitment can be confusing, misleading and disappointing. It can also build an extremely strong and loving bond if the two of you met at an agreeing level. 

The Art of Kissing

Learn the different types of kisses and the meanings behind them! 

When we feel an intense romantic connection with someone, it is only natural that we will want to experience passionate kisses with him or her. What message are you sending out when you kiss someone romantically? Believe it or not, there are different types of kisses with different meanings and intentions behind them. You could be sending the wrong message without knowing and scaring your love interest away without even knowing it. Or you could be a kissing expert with great kissing experience and knowledge. How much do you know about the art of kissing? Read the different types below and learn what the meaning behind each kiss is, as well as the message each one sends out!

The Peck: The light peck is very casual and safe. A peck on the cheek says that while you do like the person as a person, you are not really sure about where you want things to go. A peck on the lips is a better sign romantically. It means that there is romantic interest and curiosity, but you do not want to rush into anything or move too fast.

Sweet & Soft Closed mouth Kisses: Mouths may be closed, but there is a lot of meaning behind them! Closed mouth kisses should be soft, slow and juicy. Take your time to explore each others lips and press your lips against each others for a couple of seconds before pulling away and starting again. Sweet closed mouth kisses send the message that you are very into your love interest and are ready to explore around and find out more about him or her, but do not want too move too fast and scare him/her.

Open mouth kiss with Tongue: The most passionate and sexual kisses involve the tongue. Kissing someone with an open mouth and entering your tongue in his/her mouth sends the message that you are strongly attracted to them and feel an intense lust-connection with him/her. Tongue or French kissing is very sexual and gives the idea that you want to become more intimate with a person

Are You Ready For Marriage??

It is the event we all dream about: our wedding day. We all picture ourselves eventually settling down with the perfect partner and build a strong and wonderful married life together and even create a family. There is a lot more to marriage besides the romance and love you feel for one another. A good and healthy marriage requires effort and team work. The both of you will enter the marriage together and therefore will have to continue to precede the marriage together. Before proposing or setting that date, take time to sit down with yourself first and ask yourself the following questions:

What makes this Person the One?

Obviously your first answer will be because you love him or her. That is not the question. The question is, what makes this person, out of all the other relationships you have been in, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with? It is important to make a mental list on this, to prevent yourself from entering a marriage for the wrong reasons. An example of a wrong reason would be marrying because you feel that time is running out for you. Do not pressure yourself or allow others to pressure you with the idea that you are getting old and may never have another opportunity to get married.

Prepared to play the Wife or Husband role?

Before you get too excited and jump into any marriage, first ask yourself if you are ready to be a wife or husband. Being a spouse is different than being a boyfriend, girlfriend or fiance. It requires new and more responsibilities and a lot more attention. Its not that you cannot continue to be independent, but you will have to share everything and everyone that is a part of your life if you want to have a trusting and open marriage.

Ready for a financial challenge?

Being married is not like dating where you cover the dinner bill or pay for the movie tickets. It involves new and more expensive bills. This is a subject you should discuss with your partner so that there are no unpleasant surprises later. Whether the both of you work or one of you stays at home, it is essential that you know ahead of time of how you plan to handle all financial challenges, including insurances and emergencies.

Can you stay committed and faithful?

You need to be sure that you have all your curiosities about other people out of your system. If you love your partner but still wonder how it would be to see other people, than you probably should wait to have the wedding a little later down the road. In fact, if you really feel the need to see other people, you should not be afraid to share it with your partner. Tell him or her that it has nothing to do with your love for them, but you need to see if this chapter is closed for good. Being able to commit and stay faithful is one of the biggest things that will keep your marriage together.

Can you live with his/her lifestyles?

If you do not already live together, then really pay attention to your partner's habits and way of living. Though you cannot know everything there is to know about a person, it is good to get an idea. If he or she has certain habits that drive you crazy, it can be worked out with effort on both your parts. However, if you feel you can never get along with certain things, then perhaps the two of you should continue dating and getting to each other before making any big decisions.

These are only some questions you should definitely find answers to before getting married. If you are confused on any of them or cannot find an answer, then do not get married until you do. If you want a marriage that will be happy, healthy and last forever, you should never involve yourself in a marriage until you decide you are truly ready for it.

What is Being In Love??

Through thousands of years the feeling of being ‘in love’ has been described as one of the most beautiful ever. A person ‘in love’ is optimistic, humane and most importantly has the ability to love a fellow human being. All through your life you may have many people. These people include parents, relatives, siblings, friends, etc. However, ‘in love’ is different than loving all those around you. Love is very difficult to describe. 

This subtle feeling may occur because of a single look, smell, words, appearance can change the way you feel about someone. Though most of the time it is the physical appearance that that plays a huge role in initially attracting someone to you. However, love is not just a physical attraction; it is as spiritual and emotional as physical. Therefore, if people do not vibe will with each other spiritually, physical attraction may wear off soon.

When you are ‘in love’ you will feel a strong bond between you and the other person. You will always be on the lookout for this person. You will be happy whenever the person you are in love which acknowledges you. This acknowledgement could be a mere look, a polite nod, etc. The feeling of being in love is one of the most beautiful of them all. You will find that everything around you is bright, sunny, optimistic, happy, etc. Being in love is a unique experience all human being should undergo. The experience can teach us reach new heights in maintaining and nurturing relationship.

It is difficult to conceal love from others especially when the person you love is around you. People who know you well will immediately notice the difference in your attitude. When you are ‘in love’ there is no hiding your feelings as much you may try. You will end up expressing love one way or the other.

Your being in love however should be conveyed to the right person perfectly. Again in the matters of the heart the faster you convey the better it is. There are many ways you can convey these feelings. However, you should know whether this person nurtures similar feelings towards you.

You can know whether or not the person you are in love with. You can simply use some practical knowledge and divine signals. This can be conveyed to you successfully through psychics. They can use the information or photograph of the person and summon special energies for letting you know whether the person you are in love with is in love with you too.

You will find psychics can guide you the best during this time of deep confusion. You will also know whether or not this is love in reality or it is simply infatuation which will wear off within no time. With the helps of psychics you will also know the right time for letting this person know about your feelings. You can also know whether or not the person you are interested in is not really in love with someone else.

Your being in love is precious. You should try and use actual psychics and not software programs, only real psychics can guide you aptly and help you out of the confusion. You will also know clearly whether or not you should go ahead with love. Using software or free scams will leave you on a wrong trail. In fact, you could be misguided if you use this automatic, instant, free service. It would always be better if you can gain help from a genuine psychic and gain help in precious matters of heart.

Peace,

Chail

Tips To Help Save Money

1. Cook at home often: If both the husband and wife work, this is likely to be very difficult. Start out with the habit of cooking at home once a week and slowly increase the frequency until you find a balance between saving money and getting stressed out.


2. Make your own coffee: Everyone seems to have heard of the latte factor. Even though the author may have overestimated the savings from skipping a latte at Starbucks, don’t underestimate the ding it puts in your pocket in the long run. You don’t have to entirely ban drinking coffee, but skip it as often as possible unless you make it at home.
3. Brown bag lunch at least a few days a week: Lunch times are great opportunities to network and make connections that could improve your career growth. So unless there is a common eating area for brown baggers, you may choose to limit brown bagging lunch to three days each week. Find a balance between saving some money and making the connection. In my case, I take my lunch with me 2-3 times a week and eat out the rest of the time.


4. Make a list before going shopping: They call it impulse buying for a reason. Humans simply have a very tough time resisting the temptation to purchase extras while shopping. Without a list you will buy items that you simply do not need. Even worse is when your forget to purchase the actual item you came to the store for in the first place. If you plan on cooking at home, pre-plan a rough menu and make a list before you go grocery shopping. Getting all that you need in one trip can help avoid another unnecessary trip and temptation.


5. Go grocery shopping while you are in a hurry: Maybe you need to go out in a couple of hours. Or your favorite show is going to be on TV after a couple of hours. Try to squeeze in the grocery trip in that intermediate time. Armed with your grocery list, you should be in-and-out very quickly with little time for meandering and getting tempted to buy things you don’t need.


6. Watch out for expiration dates on perishable goods: This one seems intuitive when you read it, but I am surprised at how many people do not pay attention to expiry dates. No point getting a gallon of milk if it is going to turn sour with a couple of days. Same goes for meat, eggs, yogurt, spreads, frozen items, deli/bakery items etc. Some people say you can use a few items a few days after expiry – but I personally value my health more than money and would rather avoid buying such items in the first place.


7. Buy in bulk whenever possible: When it comes to non-perishable items, buy in bulk whenever you find something on sale. The items I usually stock up on are, cereals, tinned goods, rice, beans, pasta, coke, toothpaste, body wash, shampoo, toilet paper etc. For such items, shopping at warehouse stores like Costco, Sam’s Club etc can save you quite a bit of money, provided you stick strictly to your shopping list when you shop at these places.


8. Buy generic products whenever possible: Does it really matter whether your cereal is made by Kellogg's or is the store brand? Does it matter if your milk is Oak Farms or the store brand? For a few things (like soda in particular), I prefer brand name products. For others, I do not mind generic store brands if they can save me money. Find what works for you and switch to generic brands for at least a part of your grocery list.


9. Use grocery store bags to line trash cans: This may not work if you use a massive trash can but we use a small sized one for which the grocery bags are a perfect fit. This not only helps us save some money, but reduces our environmental foot print and avoids the kitchen from stinking from a huge overflowing trash can.


10. Consolidate and pay off debt as soon as possible: If you carry any debt, focus on consolidating it to a lower interest and paying it off as soon as possible. Money paid in interest is money thrown away! Why spend your hard-earned cash to make the financial institutions rich?


11. Pay your bills on time and avoid late fees: Get organized about your regular bills. If possible, automate the payments. Most utilities and other recurring bills can be set to be charged to a credit card or deducted from a checking account these days. Also, many banks offer free bill pay programs. So there really is no excuse for forgetting to pay a bill on time and forking out the late fees. Say, by chance you do forget a bill, if you are a first time offender, call the company and request politely to waive the late fees, and more likely than not, they will oblige.


12. Be aware of your bank balance and avoid over draft fees: If you use your checking account often or have some bills that are paid automatically from your checking account, be aware of the balance and avoid overdraft fees.
13. Avoid ATM fees: Be aware of the ATM withdrawal fees charged by your bank. While some banks waive fees for all ATM transactions on any ATM machine, most don’t. So be sure to use only those ATM machines where your bank will not charge the fees, or withdraw directly at your bank.


14. Avoid credit cards with annual fee: Credit cards with their cash back bonuses and reward points are a great way to save some money. Just make sure that the card does not charge you any annual fees! There is no dearth of cards that offer fee-free reward plans, so there really is no reason to pay the annual fees.


15. Disconnect land line if possible: Unless you have small kids in the house or older people to take care of, it is more than likely that you will be able to survive with only the mobile phones and can get rid of the land line. We have survived without any problems for over 4 years now with out a land line. Our Internet comes via cable.


16. Instead of buying books, borrow books from the library: Whenever possible, borrow your books instead of buying them. The card to your public library is free and the libraries are generally well stocked. In my city, the chain of public libraries is connected and the available books can be checked online. If there is some book that I cannot find in my local branch, I can make a request online for it to be brought in from one of the other branches to mine which is very convenient.


17. If you have to buy books, check if you can buy it used: Used books do not quite give the same feeling as leafing through the crisp pages of a brand new book. But considering that you can get used books for almost as much as half the price of a new book, it is a small price to pay. My favorite place to buy used books is a local chain called “Half Price Book Store”. Check if you have something similar in your city. For text books, look online on bulletin boards, mailing lists etc, and price compare on websites like addall.com.


18. Price check before buying anything expensive: For other items that are expensive, do a price check before buying the item. If you can wait for a while you can track the prices and grab a great deal when it comes along. Frequently available online coupons make it even more easy to save some money. This is especially true while purchasing any electronics.


19. Avoid impulse buying: Make it a habit to avoid impulse buying. Many of the things you want to buy do not seem all that necessary, if you only you wait for a day or two. Also, waiting means you will be able to check prices and make an informed decision to buy it at the best possible price.


20. Bottle your own water: Drinking water is good for your health. I always make it a habit to keep some at my desk at all times. Bottled water is the most convenient since it can provide protection against accidental spills. That said, buy bottled water only once in a while, and then reuse that bottle to fill your own water. If you are not happy with tap water, invest in a Brita Filter – in the long run it can save a lot of money.


21. Avoid the vending machines: Almost everything that is dispensed via vending machines has a huge markup (and is rarely healthy). However, if you suffer from snack attacks at work, consider creating a secret stash of snacks. If you like drinking soda and have a fridge at the workplace, save a refrigerator pack in the fridge with a post-it with your name on it. If you have a long commute, consider a stash for the car as well and avoid a quick drive-thru visit.


22. Keep your car as long as possible: When possible, try to keep your car as long as possible. Find the balance between the money spent on repairs versus the monthly installment on another vehicle and choose to run your old car as long as the repair costs are low.


23. Do regular scheduled maintenance on your vehicles: Do not skimp on or forget to do regular oil changes. Remember to check the air in your tires often. And use the grade of fuel that the owner’s manual recommends. These small acts can significantly lengthen the life of your car, giving you years of use.


24. Avoid buying a new car: When you eventually buy a car, see if you can make do with a pre-owned vehicle. A new car depreciates significantly the moment you drive it out the dealership. Is the new car small really worth thousands of dollars? Pre-owned cars that are only a few years old with low mileage are the best bargains. Regardless of the purchase, learn to negotiate with car dealers.


25. Ride your bike or carpool whenever possible: In many of the cities in the US it is hard to get by without a car. That said, just because you have a car does not mean you have to use it every day. Whenever possible, ride your bike or share a ride with a colleague or spouse and save both on gas and reduce the environmental footprint.


26. If you watch a lot of DVDs, get an online DVD store membership: Membership to online movie stores like Netflix or Blockbuster Online can save you a lot of money compared to buying DVDs or renting it from a local store. You need to wait once you order the movie, but if you watch a lot of movies at home, then you can easily get into the habit of ordering ahead of time so you always have something at home. If you are patient and your library has the resources, check to see if they have a movie section. You won't get anything very new, but they are free.


27. If you like watching movies at the theater, go before 6:00 pm: This is one of our soft spots when it comes to spending. We really like watching movies in the theater with the big screen and the great sound effects. But instead of paying ~$10 a pop for the ticket, we usually go before 6:00pm when the tickets are a little less expensive. Also, for movies that we don’t absolutely want to watch right away, we just wait until it screens on the discount theater where the tickets are $2 a pop. We avoid the temptation to buy snacks, by usually going for a theater some time soon after our lunch or sometimes sneaking in our own snacks in the purse.


28. Regulate your electric use: When not in use, unplug electric appliances. Apparently, unplugging the TV instead of just switching it off can save a lot of electricity! When not in a room, switch off the lights and the fan. Use a programmable thermostat to control your A/C and heater usage. If that's too much, at least know what each appliance uses and unplug a few of them.


29. Plan vacations ahead of time: Vacations are a necessary part of saving our sanity in the busy lives that we lead. But vacations are also a huge drain on the family finances. You can cut the cost of a vacation significantly by planning and booking ahead of time. Bookmark travel sites for finding inexpensive airfare, hotel etc., and book at least two weeks in advance.


30. Finally, keep distance from lavish, high-roller friends: If you have lavish friends who buy a new car every other year (or worse still, lease it), have large screen TVs and every other conceivable electronics gadget, eat out at fancy restaurants every other night and just live way beyond their means, keep the distance. They may be nice people and mean you no harm, but hanging out with such people often can lead to a lot of unnecessary desires and discontent. What’s more important – your friends or your peace of mind?

Whoa, that article ended up being a lot longer than I anticipated. Hopefully, I haven’t put you to sleep! Despite the length though, it barely scratches the surface when it comes to ways to save money. Make it a sub-conscious habit to save money in things that you do every day, even if it is a few dollars. All that money saved can add up significantly and you can save it or spend it on things that really matter!

NOTE: I am not saying that you should follow ALL these tips. Trying to be too frugal can make both you and the people around you very miserable. So, pick out a few tips at a time that will work for you and make them a habit, before deciding if you can incorporate more money saving habits in your daily routine.