Many often confuse the difference between sexing, f*cking and making love. Some often compare the three as being the same thing. Most people do not realize that there is a difference between these three. In this post, I will give my opinion on why these three things are different from one another.
Let's start with sex. To me sex is something that doesn't often involve real feelings or even a committed, real relationship. Many people have a "friend with benefits," which is what I would put under the category of sex. Often times there are others who seek pleasure from one-night stands. There is never any real emotions or deep feelings; it's ONLY about the pleasure of the act. Usually when people only seek to have sex, there is very little fore play and intimacy afterwards, the holding and cuddling of one another, well that don't happen often. Many people are fine with having sex just for pleasure, never caring for the emotional aspects of being in love. Often some will jump partner to partner because that is all they are seeking, which is the immediate rush and release in the pleasure of sex. Henney with no chase. No Jodeci. No kissing. Get your clothes and leave when it’s over. Please don’t sleep next to me. Please don’t call me for 24 hrs… and we can do this again. LMAO,,seriously tho!
I am one of the ones who have never been able to do this sort of thing. I could never just have a "friend with benefits" or jump into a one-night stand. Part of that are the values I have about lovemaking. It also, for me, means more that my partner is in love with me, and sex is not just about pleasure. This is where making love comes into play.
How is that different than f*cking? Because that’s YOUR man, the man that LOVES you and CARES for you and not only sits around all day thinking about beating up your p*ssy, but also just loves spending time with you, talking with you and LOVING you. Being inside of you is not a game or a sport to him, it’s a physical manifestation of the deep-seeded affection that you share for one another.
Whether he is bending you over and smashing it from the back, or whether you are 69′ing and he is sliding his wet tongue over your clit, if he is doing it from a perspective of LOVE – it’s making love. If he tells you, you are a jumpoff, then it doesn’t matter how hard or fast his stroke is, because it will NEVER be anything more than just sex. So, on behalf of people who love SMASHING the nani down every now and then, please get it straight.
When two people who are in love with each other, and who share that emotional bond with one another, they care very much about making their partner feel cherished and taken care of. When someone who is in love makes love to their partner, they take care of all their needs, not just sexually. They will take time by doing foreplay and making their lover feel loved. They are attentive to their partners every needs and desires. They get more joy out of satisfying them then they do themselves. Often times, they do not always need to be satisfied while making love. Making love between two people who are in love is often slow and intimate. After lovemaking many couples that love one another will hold and cuddle their lover as a deeper form of intimacy afterwards. This also brings the lovers together and they connect deeper on that emotional bond. At least for me that is how I am.
I know some may not necessarily agree with my post. I am strictly giving my opinion on what I feel is the difference between sex, f*cking and making love. It is in my opinion that there is a difference. I'm sure to however, that there are some who agree with me whole-heartedly. I just wanted to remind everyone that the difference between sexing, f*cking and making love should NEVER be confused!!!
Love safe, Love hard, Love consistently. :)
Peace&Love
